Still rolling. I'm so proud of myself. Sad, I have to be proud of myself for not buying stuff.
Come on, that is a great thing to be proud about. You chose to not buy stuff. This is the way.Still rolling. I'm so proud of myself. Sad, I have to be proud of myself for not buying stuff.
Thanks. Going to try November and December as well.Come on, that is a great thing to be proud about. You chose to not buy stuff. This is the way.
Only 11 days gents. The times really flies.
I've seen your posts with the photos of all of the great products you bought- this certainly counts as a real "treewhale." Enjoy all of your new kit.Sigh..im out >_> when it gets here ill show what made me go out..
I'm in my 4th or 5th month of GRUMEs. I have been successful in all but one, and when I fell out of that one it was to buy a LE Simpson M6 in faux ebony, one of the few non-ivory resin handle options I really like. So I bought it. I bought nothing else that month, so even at the time I looked at it as a month in which I restrained myself for 30 days out of 31, and even then it was only one purchase. Now that may sound like a rationalization, but to me it is a recognition of my frailty and that I am seeking progress, and not perfection. If I had looked at that Simpson purchase in August as a "failure," there would have been no reason to prevent turning that one purchase into a big 'ole treewhale, with perhaps 3 more brushes, a dozen soaps and creams, and 5 naggins of aftershave. But that didn't happen, because my perspective had changed. To be honest, most of the purchases I've made over the past 4 or 5 years were each gonna be "the last one for a good long while," but they never were. As a result, I was never really able to enjoy all the shaving kit I bought because each purchase brought not only a new brush or soap or cologne but also a bundle of shame and regret. I think that's why so many guys in restraint comment on how they're "enjoying what I have right now"- because if they're anything like me, their enjoyment was always dulled by guilt, remorse, and regret, and now that they're in restraint, some of those negative feelings melt away and they're able to appreciate what they have.Still out - but I’ve been reflecting on my second fail in a row here.
At first, I was thinking I wouldn’t bother with these any more. I don’t love failing, or feeling guilty. But it turns out I don’t really feel guilty. I love the stuff I’ve bought. And, although at the micro-level I did fail, I’m thinking the macro-effect might actually be positive. Being in the GRUMEs has definitely discouraged impulse buying, and I can think of a number of items I thought about getting but didn’t. So, I’m thinking it has helped me at least be more deliberate about my purchases. And that‘s a good thing.
So ..... I’ll keep an eye out for the November thread. Thanks, Gents.
[...] As a result, I was never really able to enjoy all the shaving kit I bought because each purchase brought not only a new brush or soap or cologne but also a bundle of shame and regret. I think that's why so many guys in restraint comment on how they're "enjoying what I have right now"- because if they're anything like me, their enjoyment was always dulled by guilt, remorse, and regret, and now that they're in restraint, some of those negative feelings melt away and they're able to appreciate what they have.
So now, even though the M6 that knocked me out of restraint in August was a "failure" of sorts, I ditched the regret and remorse and I've been able to appreciate and enjoy the brush. And it's been years since I was able to feel that way.
That is ultimately why I am doing these restraints.
Yours is my favorite Greek name- Σωτήρης - it means "Saved"^^^ Very nice looking brush! Enjoy!
Thank you for sharing these thoughts! I can relate to that. Even though in most occasions, I wasn't buying multiple items at a time, the idea of getting the nth brush when there's so many in my kit was enough to trigger the guilt.
GRUME is a format I really like because it is gives you a feasible short term target. One month at a time.
Yours is my favorite Greek name- Σωτήρης - it means "Saved"
Let's meet at Mt Athos and we'll get ourselves sorted.I wish, but not there yet mate...