Just be careful and educate her BST heft and weight in a gun is not necessarily a bad thing. It will reduce felt recoil and her perceptions of how pleasant or unpleasant a particular caliber can be. A 38spl in an airweight is a whole lot different than a 38 in a 6” barreled N frame smith.
There is great truth to this. That’s the tradeoff with carry. My experience with ladies is that they prefer lighter and smaller, especially for an on-person carry (as opposed to a handbag carry). But the recoil snappiness is greater. Some ladies tolerate that better than others.
For the alloy frame models, an improved grip can go a long way to mitigate felt recoil and muzzle rise. A competent trigger job smooths out the heavier trigger on the J-frames. And on the later S&Ws, if it has one, be sure to disable/remove the lock.
I also prefer the heavier trigger springing on these for the less experienced, as it almost acts as a pseudo safety. You have to really mean it to squeeze one off. No 3 lb. ‘slip’ discharges.
But we are talking about a calm practice environment, where there is plenty of time to ponder and whine about those things. Most ladies love the 22 at the line all day long. But that’s not a safe real-world carry.
In a danger situation, recoil and trigger quibbles at the range will not factor so much. No safeties to fiddle with, no slides to manage. Five, for SURE, and in a caliber with stopping power. FTF? Just keep squeezing them off.
Women are better shots and tougher than a lot of the men, IMO.