Hmmm, I have so much to say about this I dont know where to start..
I've been in the club/bar/restaurant business for over 25 years and one thing I know is that the ladies are much smarter than men give them credit for, especially if you choose to be a waitress....They are tough, assertive, and not indecisive ever; its just experience dealing with patrons that gradually gives them a tougher skin and less likely to be insulted by them. One of my girls says I put up with it for a few hours and laugh my *** to the bank.. And the better ones flirt on a professional level, never letting anyone catch on and always keep them coming back for more....
Also when it comes to altercations in my place of business, I am more likely to send my head waitress to defuse the situation before my bouncers.. Things just end better when there is the softness of beauty in the mist of drunken testosterone..
Keeping what Ive said in mind i think your inexperience in the dating world is your detriment.. Not that its a bad thing but she is way more experienced than you. Maybe she thinks your cute and nice but your game is lacking? And I suspect you are her backup plan if not one of them to get out of her relationship which she is still undecided on.( Hence the leading you on)..
Also seems your looking for Mrs. Right already when you haven't tried enough Miss wrongs (which are more fun,but nothing you should base a lifelong relationship with). I say to start casually dating a few girls,, maybe take one out to this place, just to prove your not hung up on her.. Who knows she might get that "oh no, hes slipping away" feeling.
But above all, if you forget everything else, just move on my friend. A house is legally a bigger commitment than marriage; its a question of time before they tie that not...
Get yourself a new suit, a nice haircut (you belong here so I know your well shaved), and a new attitude and take it to town... And don't take anything so seriously again...
Good luck
Elo el samurai
PS.. Do not move in a few doors down.. Regardless if you moved on from pining over her, you still wouldn't like to become friends with your adversary. And just think how in a few years you see her kids playing in the yard and you thinking they could've been mine.. Don't do that to yourself....
I've been in the club/bar/restaurant business for over 25 years and one thing I know is that the ladies are much smarter than men give them credit for, especially if you choose to be a waitress....They are tough, assertive, and not indecisive ever; its just experience dealing with patrons that gradually gives them a tougher skin and less likely to be insulted by them. One of my girls says I put up with it for a few hours and laugh my *** to the bank.. And the better ones flirt on a professional level, never letting anyone catch on and always keep them coming back for more....
Also when it comes to altercations in my place of business, I am more likely to send my head waitress to defuse the situation before my bouncers.. Things just end better when there is the softness of beauty in the mist of drunken testosterone..
Keeping what Ive said in mind i think your inexperience in the dating world is your detriment.. Not that its a bad thing but she is way more experienced than you. Maybe she thinks your cute and nice but your game is lacking? And I suspect you are her backup plan if not one of them to get out of her relationship which she is still undecided on.( Hence the leading you on)..
Also seems your looking for Mrs. Right already when you haven't tried enough Miss wrongs (which are more fun,but nothing you should base a lifelong relationship with). I say to start casually dating a few girls,, maybe take one out to this place, just to prove your not hung up on her.. Who knows she might get that "oh no, hes slipping away" feeling.
But above all, if you forget everything else, just move on my friend. A house is legally a bigger commitment than marriage; its a question of time before they tie that not...
Get yourself a new suit, a nice haircut (you belong here so I know your well shaved), and a new attitude and take it to town... And don't take anything so seriously again...
Good luck
Elo el samurai
PS.. Do not move in a few doors down.. Regardless if you moved on from pining over her, you still wouldn't like to become friends with your adversary. And just think how in a few years you see her kids playing in the yard and you thinking they could've been mine.. Don't do that to yourself....