So first I think what I’m doing already (nothing) may be the best thing, but it’s still confusing. May seem a little unbelievable but 5.5 years ago I was single in the SF Bay Area. Was working out, very fit, dating a lot but pursuing substance and a match so put a lot of effort into finding a match.
One of my major things was being able to at least demonstrate the ability to do a 10+ mile hike or one with 1000’ of elevation gain early on.
I talked to a girl on OKcupid, she goes quick to suggesting a hike. Within 400 words of communicating had given me her full name, address, and phone number and encouraged me to take that Friday off and hike at Yosemite.
All her info was legit, found a newspaper article about her winning a marathon, seemed recently divorced with no kids.
I say screw it, took the day off, went to the address prepared for people trying to jump me, and she happily hops into the front of my car like we’ve known each other forever. We have exchanged a total of ~500 words at this point.
The drive there we talk and well, yeah. No license (got in an accident and decided to stop driving supposedly). Still hung up on alcoholic unemployed criminal ex that cheated on her a lot (only redeeming qualities was family had money and he looked like a male model). Because of no license can’t get a good job, rents a room.
So at least enjoy Yosemite and we ran to the base of half dome (didn’t have permits) passing everyone up. Nice day, drive back, know my dash cam has at least enough storage to save this conversation so get aggressive asking questions, her life is pretty much a mess, she’s a Chinese immigrant and it seems she isn’t “fully” divorced and the ex is saying false immigration as a pretense for divorce.
At this point I’m critical, point out her superficial nature, the common denominator to all her mistakes (her) question if she gets other peoples opinions and it seems she just looks for what she wants to hear so I put it bluntly and call her s****d.
She cries, I drop her off, I figure that’s that.
She calls me later and ask if I want to hike locally the next day. So I say sure, more comes out (she’s “staying“ with another guy but not intimate with him) evidently she still talks with the ex a lot so I tell her bye.
At this point we’ve done about 6k of elevation gain in 30 hours hiking.
Year later she sends me a message with just a period on Facebook. Year after she sends another message but I think they can tell when you open it so I don’t touch it.
So on Valentine’s Day this year she sent me another message. It’s been 5.5 years since those two dates, I haven’t talked to her in any capacity since, I’m married, her last name hasn‘t changed. I haven’t opened said message because Facebook. I saw the email in my inbox at work and felt physically sick.
She is attractive, fit, shouldn’t have any problem finding dates except for the baggage. Don’t want to engage her in any way to possibly push her to go past Facebook to try to reach me.
Should I be worried or is this just a good story to laugh at? It is slightly disturbing for me to have someone message me like this.
One of my major things was being able to at least demonstrate the ability to do a 10+ mile hike or one with 1000’ of elevation gain early on.
I talked to a girl on OKcupid, she goes quick to suggesting a hike. Within 400 words of communicating had given me her full name, address, and phone number and encouraged me to take that Friday off and hike at Yosemite.
All her info was legit, found a newspaper article about her winning a marathon, seemed recently divorced with no kids.
I say screw it, took the day off, went to the address prepared for people trying to jump me, and she happily hops into the front of my car like we’ve known each other forever. We have exchanged a total of ~500 words at this point.
The drive there we talk and well, yeah. No license (got in an accident and decided to stop driving supposedly). Still hung up on alcoholic unemployed criminal ex that cheated on her a lot (only redeeming qualities was family had money and he looked like a male model). Because of no license can’t get a good job, rents a room.
So at least enjoy Yosemite and we ran to the base of half dome (didn’t have permits) passing everyone up. Nice day, drive back, know my dash cam has at least enough storage to save this conversation so get aggressive asking questions, her life is pretty much a mess, she’s a Chinese immigrant and it seems she isn’t “fully” divorced and the ex is saying false immigration as a pretense for divorce.
At this point I’m critical, point out her superficial nature, the common denominator to all her mistakes (her) question if she gets other peoples opinions and it seems she just looks for what she wants to hear so I put it bluntly and call her s****d.
She cries, I drop her off, I figure that’s that.
She calls me later and ask if I want to hike locally the next day. So I say sure, more comes out (she’s “staying“ with another guy but not intimate with him) evidently she still talks with the ex a lot so I tell her bye.
At this point we’ve done about 6k of elevation gain in 30 hours hiking.
Year later she sends me a message with just a period on Facebook. Year after she sends another message but I think they can tell when you open it so I don’t touch it.
So on Valentine’s Day this year she sent me another message. It’s been 5.5 years since those two dates, I haven’t talked to her in any capacity since, I’m married, her last name hasn‘t changed. I haven’t opened said message because Facebook. I saw the email in my inbox at work and felt physically sick.
She is attractive, fit, shouldn’t have any problem finding dates except for the baggage. Don’t want to engage her in any way to possibly push her to go past Facebook to try to reach me.
Should I be worried or is this just a good story to laugh at? It is slightly disturbing for me to have someone message me like this.
