In my experience, you have ZERO chance of convincing SWMBO that pipe smoking is "OK". But at least now she (usually) does not curse when she knows I've been smoking a pipe. But I try to do it only while she is not home and I clean myself up afterwards.
I'm pretty lucky I guess. The wife let's me smoke a pipe in the house and occasionally, I will past the pipe over to her for a few draws from it herself. I do keep my pipe smoking in the den and also have a Rabbit Air HEPA air purifier in the den as well.
Cigars however, are outside only, or at most in the winter time, I can lift the garage door and have the Kerosene heater going.