Prayers for you my friend, keep sight of the goal and pursue it relentlessly, razors and other AD can wait. Who knows, when the time comes and you are flying around the world the desire for worldly pursuits may be a thing of the past. I truly enjoyed your post and learned much from the journal, I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Professor Flanders's Journal of Nerdy Observations and silly camaraderie
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Prioritizing mental health isn’t an easy thing to do and you should be commended for doing this. This is the perfect first step towards a better tomorrow. You’ll get there. Believe in yourself and take one day at a time. You’re already further along than you may believe because you are self-aware and have already taken the hardest first step of working on your own mental health. Peace be with you.
Believe it or not, I completely understand, and it makes sense that you have to spend more time on your studies, as that is most important right now. Take as much time as you need, so that you may get your ratings and secure your pilots license. Once you have done that, you may come back to tell us all about it. The amount of time that you have previously spent on this forum, all the helpful information that you have donated to others, You sir, are an amazing person and a true gentlemen!
Aaron, I'm not sure if this will help, but take one moment at a time and make the most out of each one. If a moment demands study, then immerse yourself in your studies.
Also, I've found compartmentalizing things can help. While you are in the plane, appreciate that flight. When thoughts and fears come into your mind, acknowledge them, but make the conscious decision to set them aside while you enjoy your time in the air. There will be adequate time to address challenges when doing so is required, but you don't need to address them while you are doing something else that is even more important to you.
Take a breath. You are bright and capable. Be confident that you will get through this. Those of us responding to you here already know you will, even if you have to disengage or have doubts.
Also, I've found compartmentalizing things can help. While you are in the plane, appreciate that flight. When thoughts and fears come into your mind, acknowledge them, but make the conscious decision to set them aside while you enjoy your time in the air. There will be adequate time to address challenges when doing so is required, but you don't need to address them while you are doing something else that is even more important to you.
Take a breath. You are bright and capable. Be confident that you will get through this. Those of us responding to you here already know you will, even if you have to disengage or have doubts.
Aaron, you've been a great friend and a huge help to me. I wish you well. If that means stepping away for a bit, I fully support that, as I want nothing but the best for you! Know that I am thinking of you and sending caring wishes your way, my friend.
My prayers and thoughts are with you Aaron through these times.
Aaron, you take care of you. That's the most important thing. We'll always be here, especially if you need encouragement or just friendly voices. I truly hope things work out for you and I'm glad to see you working and pushing back against what is being handed out to you. I've always been amazed at how student loans are calculated and presented. It's a heavy burden and we're all pulling for you to come out on the other side of this intact and ready to kick some butt.
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Oh boy did I get a response, sorry about that! I have been travelling all day yesterday; a flight and four hours of driving that was supposed to take two(Friday before a holiday of course).
Just reading these responses is starting to overwhelm me, but I have to apologise to the senders that PMed me messages: I will get to each one individually. I did say I will always answer... eventually!
I see that I still have more to respond to, but I actually have to head down to the school in a couple hours and haven't done anything to get ready. I will try to get to the PMs first then the next page, I am honestly a bit overwhelmed. Thanks again everybody!
Just reading these responses is starting to overwhelm me, but I have to apologise to the senders that PMed me messages: I will get to each one individually. I did say I will always answer... eventually!
Thank you Eric. Your constant presence and kindness on here makes it hard for me step aside, but I chose that phrase carefully.
Thank you Larry, I know I will. I just don't know what kind of mess I am going to be by the time I get there. The school I am at is really hard and they aren't pushing people through quickly due to the demand. I chose them and while I have some regrets, at least I will likely survive the process.
I needed this reminder, but I got it already on my flight home yesterday! I was on a 135 flight so I had ForeFlight open the whole time and treated it like it was part of my study. Even somebody who doesn't know much about aviation saw what I was up to and asked for an estimate of how much longer we had. I quickly estimate that we were covering 6NM per minute, figured out the distance and gave him a surprisingly accurate estimate. But even flying around in anything that the wings aren't falling off is amazing! I fly the G1000 cockpit, but it's non-WAAS.
Thank you Lebin, I am glad I got you out of hiding at least. Thanks for the story about your brother. I will stop back by occasionally, but on somebody's journal though. I just need to avoid reading things that I shouldn't read...
Thank you Thom. I hope we put our misunderstand behind us earlier this year and we don't have to talk about that again. Between you and Eric, I can't decide who is always here more. One of you is always leaving a like minutes after posting and usually a reply as well!
I am sorry that it came out the way it did, I probably should have waited till I had some sleep. It's been very frustrated dealing with the things that I haven't mentioned and now sudden financial trouble. I will push on. Thank you for being here Kim; I know you are working harder than I am in your retirement, but at least you are making it work.
I see that I still have more to respond to, but I actually have to head down to the school in a couple hours and haven't done anything to get ready. I will try to get to the PMs first then the next page, I am honestly a bit overwhelmed. Thanks again everybody!
Aaron, if you’re cool, I’m cool. If you’re not cool, I’m confused and regretful, but otherwise cool.
Aaron,
Please don't fee obligated to respond, but know that I've valued our short time together. You know how to reach me through the contact link on my website.
I think back on when I could have made a major change in my life when I was your age. The problem was, that I had no vision of what to do. It took getting "invited" to leave the corporate world, some 20 years later to make my move.
My hat's off to you for taking action and doing it on your terms. It's no doubt challenging at the moment, and I'm not in your shoes, but others have tread where you're walking.
Stay the course and see this through!
... Thom
Please don't fee obligated to respond, but know that I've valued our short time together. You know how to reach me through the contact link on my website.
I think back on when I could have made a major change in my life when I was your age. The problem was, that I had no vision of what to do. It took getting "invited" to leave the corporate world, some 20 years later to make my move.
My hat's off to you for taking action and doing it on your terms. It's no doubt challenging at the moment, and I'm not in your shoes, but others have tread where you're walking.
Stay the course and see this through!
... Thom
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Alright everybody, I am not going anywhere... with conditions. I am so overwhelmed with the responses that I can't go anywhere. You all have won! You have proven to me that the community here is more important than any other consideration and that I am a small part of that. I still have replies to handle, but I just finished dinner. I was gone all day, the traffic was terrible on a holiday as expected.
About those conditions, I am just speaking out loud, they are for me. I am going through and systematically disabling notifications for literally dozens of threads that I follow. What I am not cancelling is all of your journals, they will continue to be my home base here. Maybe I will finally get caught up a bit on some that I am neglecting and feel bad that I haven't got to. The only thing is, I am not going to even attempt to catch every single post. I may go back and try a bit, but there are going to be days where I am on here a lot and days where I am completely absent. Possibly five days without activity.
The rest of the situation that I am not going into detail on is still looming over everything, but what you all have gifted me is a real sense of hope. I know that situation is actually going to get worse, but I am no longer letting it control me. I really had a great day at the school and it was partly because of all of your messages that I read this morning, you are real friends. I have a lot more replies to get to and then let's get back to talking about shaving!
About those conditions, I am just speaking out loud, they are for me. I am going through and systematically disabling notifications for literally dozens of threads that I follow. What I am not cancelling is all of your journals, they will continue to be my home base here. Maybe I will finally get caught up a bit on some that I am neglecting and feel bad that I haven't got to. The only thing is, I am not going to even attempt to catch every single post. I may go back and try a bit, but there are going to be days where I am on here a lot and days where I am completely absent. Possibly five days without activity.
The rest of the situation that I am not going into detail on is still looming over everything, but what you all have gifted me is a real sense of hope. I know that situation is actually going to get worse, but I am no longer letting it control me. I really had a great day at the school and it was partly because of all of your messages that I read this morning, you are real friends. I have a lot more replies to get to and then let's get back to talking about shaving!
lasta
Blade Biter
We've lost our troll hug symbol, but a few beers never hurt anyone!
If it helps, I have two bookmarks set up on my browser. One for "new posts" and another for the journals section.
...and an extra one for "GSB" alerts, I'm sure you understand.
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Thank you John. You are right, I do lose desire for razor AD when I am busy trying not to put the plane in the ground, lol! The problem for me is this is the only place I go to on my time off and I have not been managing myself well enough to be here, but I have no choice except to make it work somehow. I just thought that I couldn't, but you all proved me wrong!
Thank you for this especially Jay, you really understand where I am coming from. This is more of what I needed to hear, to feel like I am understood and that I have to prioritise myself before I can be of any use anybody else.
Chris, you already know... we have our Vulcan mind meld engaged, but thank you as always for being available even when you would rather not be.
Mark, this is all solid advice and I need to really think about this more so I am not just reacting to what is happening. Thank you for being here.
B***n, you have always been so kind and encouraging and thank you again for this.
Thank you Boris! I will remember your kindness when we tease you about GSBs, but at least we can agree about Dorcos.
Thom, thank you for leaving a message and I certainly know how to find you. You are certainly somebody who has found their own way and the two of us are more alike than different I suspect.
@huck1680 Thank you for the encouragement and friendly voices(and the crazy GIFs that you post). Sorry that I lost you quote in the process somewhere!
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Ya know as I was answering all these messages, I kept trying to find the troll hug. It's a shame that all the past posts that we left one on are now devoid of any symbol. Interesting that that's how I reach the website exactly(except that I have permanent tabs). What I am going to do is eliminate the new posts tab which is hard because I like to respond to brand new threads, but is what I have to do for myself. Of course the GSB alerts, Silvana Bluetata!
That’s the Law of Aviation “first help yourself [with the oxygen mask], before you help others”. I think there’s truth in that outside of planes as well.
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I just wish they would have let me change my user name a couple years ago when I tried; I was willing to take whatever I could get, but something related to Ned Flanders would now be most appropriate. Maybe I could get a pressure campaign going... they will probably just change my user name to Propeller Head or something equally absurd(which is fine, but devoid of meaning).Any @APBinNCA we can get around here is good for us, but only if it’s also good for APBinNCA.
Yo! You get your pilots license, then you can petition Phil to change your name to Wingin It. Or if you should stick to flying props, you could be called Propeller Popper. I got a whole list of silly names you might like.
I claim dibs on propeller head ;-)
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I am actually thinking Wing Nut isn't such a bad one, it covers anything with wings(and has a family friendly double meaning).
