B-Days/X-Mas: asking for shaving goods

[gaseousclay]

how many of you have done this? I threw this out to the missus the other night and she jokingly referred to me as a selfish little **** but, I quickly justified my comment and said that the things I want are inexpensive. I never ask for high price items but she has a hangup about getting things people ask for and wants it to be all about 'the thought' behind it. I personally don't see the value in this because most people don't appreciate sentiment and i'd rather get a $3.50 soap puck than some $50 turtle-neck sweater from grandma. or, maybe i'm just weird.

 

[moonshine44]

My wife always wants me to make a "Christmas List" every year, and then never gets me any of the things that are on it, except maybe for one thing about every third year. Consequently, I've gotten in the habit of making up a tiny little list that has almost nothing on it then Christmasing myself afterward so I get what I wanted to start with...

 

[dustinm]

I was thinking about this also recently. Today is my b-day, and christmas is not far off, so I've considered asking for shave goods. I think that with my family, though, the problem is having to get the info to them about where to buy from. Since it's not something you can just walk into a local store and buy, it makes it a little harder. I got $100 from y mom for my b-day, so I'll probably just buy what I want on my own with that.

 

[bandit82ta]

I'm lucky, my family rather ask and get things that are useful or desired then just "stuff". gotta love it......

Hope things work out. Perhaps, that's a better way to approach as well as saying that "gee hun every day I shave or see this soap/razor/brush reminds me that much more of you" or "I think of you when I use it..daily..."

Sometimes it's not so much what your saying but how you say it. Tones, phrasing and such...goodluck again

 

[gaseousclay]

My wife always wants me to make a "Christmas List" every year, and then never gets me any of the things that are on it

this has happened to me the last two years. I don't understand the point in doing it if the wife isn't going to get anything from the list.

 

[joto]

My family has always done lists, so I have indeed asked for this stuff. My wife came from a family that never did lists, but quickly converted. The understanding my family has is you get some of the stuff from your (reasonable) list, and some items that are not. You get something you want, and you get some surprises as well. For us, a perfect system.

 

[Luc]

I already planned that one...

I found a straight that I want and I will buy it myself From you to me!

 

[Johnnie Walker]

We generally do the wish list thing and buy each other something extra as a suprise. This year who knows what I'll want....depends on how the next 4 months go with my AD's

 

[huntmol]

Yep, we do lists for birthdays and Chanukah, works out great for me since she would never think of getting me a B&B LE '09 without a little help!

 

[Ru4scuba?]

My family is big on lists. Every year at B-Day and Christmas I get the "what do you want?" and generally get whats on the list.

They figure...why get you something you might not like/need?

I've already got my B-Day list to the wife (Simpson Turnback Major and AdP Edt). She's fine with it and this way, she knows she's getting something to make me happy.

All are happy with this concept in my household. Its still "the thought" behind the concept. My missues wants to get me something...but she wants to get me something I'll enjoy. She knows that if she just randomly picks something (sweater etc) I may not enjoy it as much.

If you go that route, and then you're not happy with it, then you have the uncomfortable "do I tell her" scenario. If you dont tell her, you're stuck with something you dont want/need. If you do tell her, she's pissed!

We prefer to avoid that entirely!

 

[The Nid Hog]

We do lists at my house too. It was really pioneered by my kids, who made complicated collages of things that they were interested in having. Then, they started making them for my wife and me too. It works out pretty well and, while I don't think that anyone feels like they have to pick from the list, it's a pretty good guide.

I try to mix it up a little. Everybody thinks that my shaving craving is a sign of some relatively mild form of insanity, so I put in some non-shaving goods too. Of course, it's all part of the game--they know what I really want and get me the shaving gear.

 

[Blondie]

how many of you have done this? I threw this out to the missus the other night and she jokingly referred to me as a selfish little **** but, I quickly justified my comment and said that the things I want are inexpensive. I never ask for high price items but she has a hangup about getting things people ask for and wants it to be all about 'the thought' behind it. I personally don't see the value in this because most people don't appreciate sentiment and i'd rather get a $3.50 soap puck than some $50 turtle-neck sweater from grandma. or, maybe i'm just weird.

I'm with you, I would much rather get something I had been pining away for, even if it is cheap. Some people just think gifts have to be indulgent, and not utilitarian. Mostly women are that way, you know, you can't buy them a vacuum cleaner, even if it is a really nice one. I think they view razors as vacuum cleaners.

 

[gone down south]

I hate the idea of lists, it's almost like you're demanding certain presents. Then again, I hate the idea of birthday and x-mas gifts for the same reason - gifts should be given out of the desire to please someone special to you, not because some arbitrary date on the calendar forces us to buy everyone something. But if forced to, I'd prefer to be given a general category of interest for every and then figure out good gifts for myself.

OTOH, my wife's family gets each other things from stores they know the recipient likes..... just so that they can go to mall on Boxing Day, return everything for store credit, then buy what they want there on the 50% off sales. Frankly, I'd rather just give cash at that point, the gift itself is meaningless

 

[gaseousclay]

my grandmother in-law does her x-mas shopping early and I was asked to make a list. since she buys x-mas presents early does anyone have any ideas what I should ask for? I was thinking of asking for some mama bear soaps - I want something relatively inexpensive that doesn't really have an expiration date. any other suggestions?