I have no personality. That's why I married my wife 50+ years ago. She's the personable one that everyone lilkes. I'm the sullen ahole. When I worked child welfare in the 70s, I was the guy my office assigned to anyone who threatened to kill their caseworker. I got along really well with psychos. I was always honest, didn't back down, and they respected me for it. In later years, when I worked environmental enforcement, I was also assigned sites where other inspectors were threatened and afraid to go on site. I never had a problem. I even had one guy tell a Superior Court judge that I was the only person he would allow on his property to supervise the cleanup. Outside of court, the owner told me that I couldn't retire until I approved the clean-up. We got it done a year earlier than the approved plan and I retired on schedule.