First Date Ideas

[Flounder]

I used to lurk around on B&B but I found myself buying way too much shaving gear so I went on hiatus but since I'm kind of in a pickle here I need some advice.

I have a first date with a girl this coming monday and I'm at a loss for what to do. She's a laid back person who doesn't dig all that formality. I've only come up with two ideas so far such as bowling, movies or drinks. I would go to either a comedy club, ice skating or even pottery making but those are unavailable to me.

So I was wondering if any of you had suggestions, I would prefer something more interactive but I can't think of anything. So I'm asking for help, it's been over 3 years since I went on a first date and I'd like not to screw it up.

Thanks!

 

[valmara1971]

Drinks I think! Eating is to intense and is prone to too much pressure. Drinks are more relaxed and you can often get by quiet moments by looking at other folk and asking each other to guess what they are saying or something like that. Keep it light and not too many drinks and don't think about it too much. The fact she has agreed to go out with you should say there is a great chance it's going to work out fine. Please tell us how you got on. Best of luck brother.

 

[TravelingMan82]

Take her out for coffee. Not at like Starbucks or some commercial coffee joint. Try to find a little cafe, sit back and chat. She will likely appreciate it.

I never took chicks for drinks on the first date. They think you are liquoring them up to get the goods.

 

[Flounder]

Now do you think I should offer two or three ideas and let her pick?

 

[Angus Young]

Go to the cinema then on for a few drinks. If you run into any awkward silences you can just start talking about the movie you watched. Let her pick the film though.

 

[mr_economy]

Now do you think I should offer two or three ideas and let her pick?

No, you'll want to pick one idea and go for it, and maybe have a backup idea in case things fall through. In general, women like men to be decisive and take the initiative, so although it makes sense to us that it might appear gentlemanly to let her pick, to her it's quite the opposite.

As for first date ideas, I think the most reliable choice is a cool coffee shop. It's cheap, which allows you to pay for her drink without any of the awkwardness or expectations that come from a fancy dinner. Also it gives you some time to talk and get to know each other - which is the point of the first date. Movies are generally a bad idea for a first date because you don't know each other well, you can't talk during them, and there's always an awkwardness about touching.

It's also great to look for any fun/cheap events that might be going on an hour or so after the beginning of your date, so that if things are going particularly well you can continue the fun and deepen the connection.

 

[ImaRobot]

I agree with mr economy, you need to select the activity assuming you initiated the date. I think that the idea of heading for coffee is a good, you can later switch venues to a bar if things are going well. If you live in an area with good downtown shopping area you may just want to go for a stroll and pop into any shops that seem interesting. Book stores are always a good place to learn about people.

 

[Dryden]

The coffee shop is a good idea. Or a dessert place. Mini golfing can be a fun time too. If there's a good bar or place that has a live band could work also, but talking could be awkward if you have to yell the whole time.

Movies isn't the greatest for the reasons already stated. No real interaction other than sitting in the dark.

Not sure where you live, but here we have Indigo bookstores that have starbucks attached to them. It can be a good place for an icebreaker date, or a good place to go after the main event. Have a coffee and browse the bookstore.

 

[TimmyBoston]

No dinner, no movies, just get a drink. I always take a first date to get a drink at the bar of a good resturant.

 

[cfriend]

Take her out for coffee. Not at like Starbucks or some commercial coffee joint. Try to find a little cafe, sit back and chat. She will likely appreciate it.

I never took chicks for drinks on the first date. They think you are liquoring them up to get the goods.

Girls give you shave gear if you get them drunk? I may have to look into this.

 

[Luc]

Girls give you shave gear if you get them drunk? I may have to look into this.

I have a shaving soap in me pocket!!

 

[azmark]

Take her out for coffee. Not at like Starbucks or some commercial coffee joint. Try to find a little cafe, sit back and chat. She will likely appreciate it.

I never took chicks for drinks on the first date. They think you are liquoring them up to get the goods.

Ding, ding, ding, we have a winner.

First dates are for breaking the ice and getting to know each other. My wife and I had coffee at Starbucks (sorry TravelingMan82) and spent about 3 hours getting to know each other. It's a lot more comfortable setting than a movie which is a horrible first date IMHO because you don't talk and it's too intimate. Also if it's kept as simple as coffee there is no pressure to get dressed up and it's cheap. And it's a good place to let her know you're part of a forum on shaving and are addicted to all things shaving for that matter.

You gotta keep us posted. Good luck!

 

[mikromicke]

I'd vote for doing something "active" but that depends on what kind of guys you are. Like finding a nice park, bring a picnic and walk around. It's so much easier to be relaxed when you're doing activities together and not having to sit face to face all the time

 

[chickpea]

Take her on a slaughterhouse tour, or alternatively an ultimate fighting competition.

 

[Amer]

Definitely not a movie. Coffee houses and dessert places are great, especially in the winter months. We have a great place here that only serves dessert and it's great in the winter because they always have a fire going and usually a guitarist or harpist playing.

Of course being warm next to the fire is always best after being really cold outside. Take her someplace you can walk around and window shop or see something outside. It will be an experience and once you get warm inside with your desserts it will be hard to leave. Plus it will be cheaper than dinner and depending on the girl, makes it a lot easier for you to pay if she's one to offer to help.

 

[Commander Quan]

I don't have any suggestions, I just hope that your date goes better than my last first date. Looking back at it now I did everything wrong, but the girl was gracious and must have felt bad for me, because that was two years ago and we are getting married in 9 months.

 

[GFlanagan3]

I have a shaving soap in me pocket!!

is that a a shaving soap in your pocket or are you...ah...nevermind

 

[GFlanagan3]

I used to lurk around on B&B but I found myself buying way too much shaving gear so I went on hiatus but since I'm kind of in a pickle here I need some advice.

I have a first date with a girl this coming monday and I'm at a loss for what to do. She's a laid back person who doesn't dig all that formality. I've only come up with two ideas so far such as bowling, movies or drinks. I would go to either a comedy club, ice skating or even pottery making but those are unavailable to me.

So I was wondering if any of you had suggestions, I would prefer something more interactive but I can't think of anything. So I'm asking for help, it's been over 3 years since I went on a first date and I'd like not to screw it up.

Thanks!

seriously whatever you do...keep it about HER..without being prying..people like to talk about themselves..tell her about you too but let her talk a lot...it will give you clues as to how good (or not) a time she is having

 

[ari95]

When I read the title of this thread I immediately thought of a nice small coffee shop. Some of the nicest times I have had were over coffee/tea and pie.

 

[Austin]

When I read the title of this thread I immediately thought of a nice small coffee shop. Some of the nicest times I have had were over coffee/tea and pie.

Agreed. I hate to state the obvious but I will. You will spend little money for conversation and finding out if you like this lass. I hate spending $200 at Sullivans and finding out that we had little in common.