Texting on a date? Really?

[Z3ke]

I've observed the past couple of dates and also while just out and about that people don't seem to find anything wrong with texting through out the entirety of a date, I can't be the only one that finds this completely disrespectful.

For example, I went out with someone who I have known now for about month and she texted the entire time, even through out the movie. It wasn't the first time thats happened but it was the first time I was completely ignored because of it (I had to repeat everything I said because her face was buried in her phone and she kept asking "What?").
Afterwards I mentioned how much the date sucked to some friends and no one thought it was that big of a deal. They all admitted to texting friends and "ex"s while they were out with someone.

Has this really become the norm for us young people?

 

[TonyH]

Texting during a movie is a step below cattle rustling to me. That alone would ensure no further dates!

 

[Timmy Dee]

Seconded. I leave my phone on silent during a date, and only if I feel it vibrating like mad (like when someone rings you three or four times in a row) do I even think about pulling it out of my pocket. In the movies it's switched off.

She wouldn't get a second date from me (unless she's really stunning).

 

[DFrancis]

Quite unladylike. My wife does some emailing and such when we are out but it's usually work related (she works for herself). Texting the entire date and during a movie should result in being no longer dated and "unfriended".

 

[Walker]

Anything dealing with phone usage I find disrespectful. I keep my phone off during a movie. I don't answer my phone at all when me and my wife are out on the town. All my attention goes to her. You know what else I find disrespectful. If I am talking to someone on the phone and they get another call and they answer it. When they say "Hold on, I got another call" I hang up.

 

[valmara1971]

If that was me I would have txted her with the word goodbye then left her there. Sorry but that behaviour is totally unaccaptable. As for the movies folks have been stabbed for less!

 

[ambrose]

wow man that stinks, I hate that sort of thing. Time to meet you people

 

[dom1610]

Agreed. Texting through a date is not acceptable. Texting through a movie is just plain annoying. Texting through a date to the movies...that must carry the death penalty.

 

[DavyRay]

Does she text during sex?

 

[_MementoMori_]

I have a strong hatred for texting in general, but that's just me. Don't let me get started on my crotchety old man rant against technology here.

 

[Cheech]

I text as much as the next guy. Heck, probably more. But its the same as any form of communication: its rude when you're supposed to be spending time with someone.

Its the same as a phone call. If my date took a call, especially an important call, I'd probably cut her some slack. If she spent the entire date on the phone, I'd take that as a not-so-subtle hint of how much she was into me.

Like much of technology, its just a new way of doing old things.

 

[raisindot]

Sorry to say my friend, but, like the movie title, "She's Just Not Into You."

Anyone, male or female, who would prefer the soulless interaction of texting versus human interaction is someone you don't want to spend the rest of your life with, let alone an evening.

If she were really, really into you that phone would have remained in her purse all night. Looks like here she was using you for a meal ticket.


Jeff in Boston

 

[bythbook]

PEW research recently surveyed teens on the use of mobile phones, including texting (see: PEW research on teen mobile phone usage - as I remember, when the report was released there were anecdotes that the researches were shocked that the subjects were texting (with phones held below the table top) during the interviews!

I see kids (anybody under 30 to me, at my advanced age) texting while on dates, at table with family, etc.

It's different: rude (to me), and dismissive, disrespectful (to me), etc etc.

It just is, is all.

 

[ouch]

Anything dealing with phone usage I find disrespectful. I keep my phone off during a movie. I don't answer my phone at all when me and my wife are out on the town. All my attention goes to her. You know what else I find disrespectful. If I am talking to someone on the phone and they get another call and they answer it. When they say "Hold on, I got another call" I hang up.

Does she text during sex?

I would imagine that under certain conditions, decorum would favor her texting your name, rather than screaming it.

Anyone, male or female, who would prefer the soulless interaction of texting versus human interaction is someone you don't want to spend the rest of your life with, let alone an evening.


Jeff in Boston

Isn't that backwards?

 

[WaltherPPK]

I have a strong hatred for texting in general, but that's just me. Don't let me get started on my crotchety old man rant against technology here.

I use technology all the time. Unfortunately, alot of people (kids and adults) need some lessons in common courtesy.

 

[wdwrx]

ha ha .. my helper tries to text all the time at work.. I've shut that down, but out of curiosity, I've snooped his phone (iphone that dislpays incoming texts on the front screen), this is what I've noticed his texts are about;

"yo. wat u doing?"

"nothing. work. U?"

"chillin"

I fail to see the importance of that.... especially at work. I hate to think I'm paying his wages while he texts that kind of drivel.

I freakin' hate texting! What a colossal waste of time.

I'd ditch the broad, manners are still manners, regardless of the level of technology used to be rude.

 

[SpyvSpy]

Never happened to me on a date..during sex...yes and that didn't stop me really..if the call is that important than they can listen in on "Our" business I suppose.

 

[BCatl]

Well I take a more extreme version than the OP in hating this behavior. But I'm probably older than the OP.

I would guess that 80% of the "critical messages" that are sent by cell phone, texting and so on today are pure garbage.

This is narcissism gone wild. The need of people to constantly report on the smallest most insigificant details of their lives in REAL time, with pictures. If they have to interrupt you in the middle of a sentence, they don't care.

I think the response is to walk away from them? Leave them sitting there? Or is that childish and rude too? Can you be too rude to these people? I don't think so.

 

[tg16]

Dump the hag. I do the same as Walker when someone wants me to hold because they got another call. Another rudeness is someone will call or I call them and they carry on a conversation with somone in the room with them. The second time they say hold on, I tell them to call me when they are able to talk and then say goodbye and hang up.

 

[Sue]

Very rude and self-centered.
Sue