I mean like 30, 40 years or more? Just wondering.
Have you ever tried to contact someone through Facebook you haven't seen in a long time?
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No.
If I haven't talked them in 30-40y, there is a usually a reason.
I'm also not on FB, Instagram or X.
If I haven't talked them in 30-40y, there is a usually a reason.
I'm also not on FB, Instagram or X.
Hard no. More than happy to engage with folks who come in to my orbit organically.
Years back I created an AOL email account just to explore facebook. I never used it except for logging onto facebook. When my high school graduating class had its 50th reunion 10 years ago, they created a facebook group. I didn't join, but was able to see who did. There was no one I wanted to reconnect with so I didn't join the group. Eventually the group restricted it to members only. Facebook eventually deleted my account because of non-use and a defunct email. I never rejoined.
If I was to visit FB again, I'd probably create a separate email account just for FB. Plenty of free email accounts available. GMX is a very good one. I use it as my primary. For exploring sites that require an email, my dummy email is a proton.me acct which I never check.
If I was to visit FB again, I'd probably create a separate email account just for FB. Plenty of free email accounts available. GMX is a very good one. I use it as my primary. For exploring sites that require an email, my dummy email is a proton.me acct which I never check.
This site and a reptile site are the only places I visit. With kids and grandkids I get enough social interaction.
"The past is a foreign country. They do things differently there"
What is gone is gone. I don't wish to revisit the past. It may not have been as good as I recall.
Same goes for the people. They probably wouldn't like me now, and I doubt whether I would like them.
Heck, I'm pretty sure I couldn't tolerate the me of 1983. I would really get on my nerves.
Time changes everyone. It's best to stick with the memories. They don't disappoint.
What is gone is gone. I don't wish to revisit the past. It may not have been as good as I recall.
Same goes for the people. They probably wouldn't like me now, and I doubt whether I would like them.
Heck, I'm pretty sure I couldn't tolerate the me of 1983. I would really get on my nerves.
Time changes everyone. It's best to stick with the memories. They don't disappoint.
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Thomas Wolfe summed it up best. You can't go home again. But postcards are not too bad.
I don't even know how to get on Facebook, or any of the other public carnival places. I have a hard enough time getting into this place some evenings.
My friends know where to find me. Watch out for the dog's artwork if you don't use the walkway.
I don’t have Facebook or any social media for that specific reason.
If I haven’t talked to someone in years it probably happened naturally and I would have no intentions to revert that.
If I haven’t talked to someone in years it probably happened naturally and I would have no intentions to revert that.
Yes, I have found an old friend on FB. I was the best man in his wedding. His marriage was short lived. He was visiting family In Arizona and fell for his sister’s friend. He started a family and moved to Pensilvania. Then moved again. This was in the early 90’s. We don’t chat much anymore but I was able to let him know an old friend passed away this year.
Couldn’t agree more. I have friends from 50 years ago and we remain close. There is no one else from that time that I’d want to connect with; this is particularly true of the girls of that time. I would prefer to remember them as they were.
I have a couple of times. Mostly because I was the one that did the leaving. Had a good group of friends that went to school with from 4th grade through HS. I started hanging out with a different crowd after HS and eventually realized I would be dead or in prison if I stayed in my hometown so I left. Didn’t let anyone know I was leaving, just moved to a different state. Didn’t contact or talk to anyone from my hometown (other than my parents) for close to 20yrs and Facebook was the easiest way to track some of my oldest friends down.
Don't use FB or any of that stuff. The couple of friends from that era I am still in touch with.
Yep. 30, maybe not 40. And not just through Facebook. Mixed results. In several instances really worked out wonderfully. Most times it was satisfying. My general experience is that if you really liked someone back in the day and they liked you, you will probably be happy to be in touch. Perhaps very happy.
I do think that we drift away from people naturally. But that does not mean that we cannot reconnect nicely. And, for that matter, if you try to reconnect and it does not work out, that may tell you something about your younger self or the life you led as a yonger self, that may help you now. When I was younger I ended up making a lot of changes through school and work where my friends just did not follow. And the earlier years of my professional life were very demanding. I guess I should be honest and say that when I say earlier years I am really talking decades. I lost touch with lots of folks due to pure tme demands on my side and theirs. I have found it generally life enriching to be back in touch.
I meant to say that old girlfriends might be a more nuanced experience. You could come away from the reconnection experience feeling like you dodged a bullet. Or, I suppose, that you missed an opportunity. My sense is that more often than not breakups tend to be difficult, but the years pass, time heals, and you can see that there was good in the relationship while it lasted but you can also see why it did not last. That seems like a good thing to know to me.
Not since I quit drinking, no.
Nope.
I stopped hanging out with those people for a reason.
I stopped hanging out with those people for a reason.
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About 20 years ago I noticed an old girlfriend had a FB page. I said "Hi" and her name. A week later her page was gone.
You are a better person than I am, Phil. I seem to have stopped hanging around with lots of people for no good reason at all, or purely situational reasons like living in another city for a year or so. This is not to say that there are not people have not seen for a long time, who I notice are on Facebook, whom I choose not to contact. Also, if one does go about contacting folks one has not seen for decades one has to be prepared to discover some sad things. Some folks continue their lives on a predictable, downward arc. Others correct themselves and do great, maybe even stunningly great. (That is a truly gratifying thing to find out!) Others, for no apparent reasons assignable to them personally, seem to have lived the lives of Job. Life can be unrelentingly cruel. But that may help one count his own blessings.
Probably mere coincidence. But I would suggest that thick skin, and not rose-colored glasses, is a useful asset if one is going to reconnect with old "friends."
This was exactly the case for me. I periodically saw old friends when I went to visit my mother when she was still with us.
Each time I visited, my "friends" were the same people I knew when I was 16 or 17. Partying, getting in trouble, no interest in doing anything with their lives except what was absolutely necessary to earn a paycheck to keep them in whatever product they needed to escape their miserable reality for a short period.
Yeah but she blocked me. And the 2nd account I created
