I guess it depends on how sensitive your skin is. I know my grandpa used a bay rum splash up until his death (it was the bottle that had the fake plastic bay leaf in it).
I'm 77, and I've had good experience with Thayers toner. To me, the cucumber version is especially nice, but that's a detail. I also like balms, my favorites being Pre de Provence (either scent) and Truefitt & Hill Ultimate Comfort. As a senior, be careful with alcohol-based aftershaves. Alcohol can dry your skin. I use them but not very often.
I'm also 77. I finish every shave with Dickinson's Witch Hazel, letting it dry before, or in place of, aftershave. For aftershaves, I prefer those whose scent does not last long. Stronger scents give me a headache, and I feel like Pig Pen from the Peanuts cartoon with a cloud around my head. Captain's Choice Bay Rum, CO9T North, and sometimes Lime are my go-to. When I want a clove fix, I use Ogallala Bay Rum AS. All usually fade within an hour. Clove is a soothing scent I remember from my grandmother's home as a kid. She chain-smoked, rolling her own, while gumming Bazooka gun and clove sticks. I loved staying there, so clove is a comforting scent to me.