...She might be baiting you to see if you blow her off, blow a fuse or ignore it altogether because after all it is facebook...
To me, that says, "Get away as fast as you can!" if she is, indeed, "baiting" you
...She might be baiting you to see if you blow her off, blow a fuse or ignore it altogether because after all it is facebook...
That's another game to me. If I did something like that, it'd be for keeps. Earlier this morning she said her stomach was already feeling upset knowing she was coming here later (the flu stuff started a few hours after leaving here Wednesday night / early Thursday morning, and she jokingly tells me it was my fault..). I told her not to come then. She said "of course I wanna!"
So, we'll see.
My advice is this. On your next outing with her, towards the end of the night, lay your cards on the table in as clear and plain way as you can. Let there be no confusion about your feelings. Simply say something along the lines of "look, I'm guessing you might know by now, I think your really great and I'd like it if we could be more than friends. I was just wondering how you would feel about that."
I still say you owe it to yourself to lay the cards on the table as I mentioned above. Once you have done that, if you do not get the response you like or if she is still playing games, then move on. But if you don't spell it out to her and make things clear before walking you might always wonder, "what if?"
Ok. I will try to find a time before next weekend to figure it out.
But I got a big *** pot of beef stew now. Anyone want some? Sheesh.
Ok. I will try to find a time before next weekend to figure it out.
Oh, I mentioned I was applying for a new job at work about two weeks ago and she said, "maybe then you could afford to take me on a real date."
I still say you owe it to yourself to lay the cards on the table as I mentioned above. Once you have done that, if you do not get the response you like or if she is still playing games, then move on. But if you don't spell it out to her and make things clear before walking you might always wonder, "what if?"
Hey I let my wife read this thread and she has known women like this. She says what is going on here is, from what she has read, is that this woman was never interested in you sexually and wanted to see what her "worth" was. By that she means, how much men will shell out on her.
She also says, you're being creepy by trying to stick with her through all this drama. It's a sign of a co-dependent personality. You need to take the "get a clue" approach.
Yeah but whom among us hasn't, in hindsight, done foolish things because a woman has gotten into our heads? I know I have, plenty of times.
It is very easy to see what someone should do from an outsiders perspective. It is never so clear when you are in the middle of it. And, although there seems to be a lot of drama going on here, no-one wants to walk away from somebody they like until they feel as if they have given it every possible chance of working out. My feeling is that this might not be "the one" for you. But hey, it's certainly worth making every effort to find out for sure. If nothing else it will give you more appreciation for the right one when she does show up.
My wife is EVIL!
I like this approach. Put all out there man. She's not a mind reader. Even if she is doing the "sabatoge" thing, you will have been a gentleman and voiced how you feel about it. Nothing ever wrong with that.
Yeah but whom among us hasn't, in hindsight, done foolish things because a woman has gotten into our heads? I know I have, plenty of times..