Lipstick on a pig
Big distinction between being a kind and caring person and being a gentleman. Being kind and caring may not entail or require proper image. But being a gentleman we expect proper image .
It really depends on what definition of gentleman you use. At one time the definition was a man of noble birth who belonged to the landed gentry. Gradually the definition seems to have changed to a man who treats people in a polite or civil way.
Apparently not, according to the poll results so far.
Apparently not, according to the poll results so far.
Most answers seem to be yes and No so it may be uncertain.....what im stating is that it's not necessary but it comes with the package. It seems that you just want to make it look like I'm saying the contrary. I'm not suggesting that proper dress and groom makes a gentleman, I'm just saying it comes with the turf if the person can afford it.
If an individual goes all out to be nice to another, then why not be nice to himself and go all out to be presentable.
68 members voted so far out of 68,503 members. 25 % said yes and 75% said no. But out of 75% most said yes and no. So it is a uncertain.
The poll question is not very good as it ask and OR question, but only gives a yes/no response.
I would say grooming is, in that not smelling of B.O. and not being "dirty" in general. (obvious exception for work that makes you sweaty and smelly) SWMBO likes it when I come in from working outside all day and have my "man smell" but she also really likes it when I am freshly showered and shaved.
Clothing no.
Actions speak louder than words but if you smell so bad no lets you get close enough to be a gentleman then it doesn't matter how nice you are.
So you've agreed with me this whole time? You voted no in the poll? I specifically left out the maybe answer in the poll for a reason. I've maintained, since this started, that one should do the best they can with what they have regarding clothing and grooming. The problem is one persons best is another persons trash, and not every person who's labeled a gentleman is known by the person who labeled them whether or not that person is doing the best they can based on what they're wearing at that specific time ( my doctor analogy in the other thread).
I'm not comfortable with the word expected when it comes to clothing and grooming, anymore than I'm comfortable with it when it comes to social class and hierarchy, which is pretty much the first thing mentioned in the true definition.
How would a thread go here If it said something like "Before one could even be considered a Gentleman, they are expected to be of a certain elite social class?"
Ultimately, the true definition of the word gentleman has some fairly negative definitions that go with it. I think that the word has evolved over time to mean something different than the strict definition. I choose to look at clothing and grooming like I do with the social status part of the definition. I can no more tell how rich someone is or how elite their family name is, than I can if they're doing their best in the clothing dept. that particular day simply by looking at them, so I just don't bother with it. I choose to define a Gentleman based on what he does and not how he looks, because the alternative is adhering to a strict definition that if most people had to use the word in that context, probably wouldn't use that word ever again, and certainly wouldn't use it the way most of us use it here, or outside of here.
You can see that I been saying that it's expected or it comes with the package. I never said it's a requirement. Only if they can afford proper dress and groom. Being a nice person to others and being a gentleman are two different things.
Rockminer:What's the difference between a "nice person" and a Gentleman?
If the said nice person is SWMBO then I would strongly advise against calling her a Gentleman.What's the difference between a "nice person" and a Gentleman?
If the said nice person is SWMBO then I would strongly advise against calling her a Gentleman.
What's the difference between a "nice person" and a Gentleman?