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Thoughts on hair and beard styling please

I hope this in the most appropriate place - please move it if not :)

I've never really paid much attention to personal grooming / styling, however over lockdown I let my hair grow out and have grown to like it - so now need to decide what to do with it and would welcome some thoughts and guidance please!

I know that a lot of styling is subjective, while there are also some universal rules that should be followed.

I've put some time into my beard and am fairly happy with it; having found the journey into SR use really rewarding thus far. Care is fairly basic - sideburns kept to length with a downward No.3 using the clippers every so often, length under chin trimmed to give a bit of an upward angle moving rearward, 'tash kept to length at top lip and rounded off a little freehand with the clippers. Every 2-3 days cheeks are shaved to existing line / to remove outlying hairs, neckline trimmed and shaved to 2 fingers above Adam's apple, rearward projection at base of sideburns / rear of jaw tidied. For now I'm just letting it grow out and taking off the obviously wayward hairs to see what length I like.

Conversely I've not had a haircut since some time last year and don't do a lot with it other than washing it. Having spent most of my life with generic, off-the-shelf short haircuts I like the tactility and non-conformity of having it long but am not too sure on the aesthetic or where to go when I eventually visit the barbers. Usually it ends up either swept back and tucked behind my ears or hanging in a rough centre-parting which I quite like, but I'm not sure if it just screams "mid life crisis" with that much forehead exposed..

Below are some pics - I'm not in the SAS but equally don't like images of my face plastered all over the net so eyes have been redacted to protect the innocent!

If you were "blessed" with my face, where would you go with the hair and beard?













Thanks!
 
As someone who has had very long hair at one point, I think the hair looks good. I suggest letting it grow until you think it's too long and then just cut back incrementally until you find the sweet spot.
 
  • Healthy amount of hair on top; I do not see "mid life crisis" at all. My high school son has grown his hair out this year and uses pomade to hold that brushed back look. Forehead has similar look to yours, so no worries. You are nowhere near the George Carlin ponytail.
  • Combined with no gray at all, still no evidence of mid life crisis look
  • Very nice healthy beard, classic trimmed look. To accentuate the "well groomed" look, perhaps shaving the area under bottom lip between moustache line and "soul patch."
 
Thanks guys - I really appreciate your input and was beginning to think that the stoney silence was due to everyone keeping their mouths shut out of tact / observation of the old adage "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything" :p

Modeling agency, probably.
lol - now I know you're taking the pish but I'll take the flattery where I can get it!

As someone who has had very long hair at one point, I think the hair looks good. I suggest letting it grow until you think it's too long and then just cut back incrementally until you find the sweet spot.
Thanks - that's kind of the plan but I just have no idea about styling (or whether I can really get away with it being long at all) and I'm wary of pulling it back as it's getting dangerously close to midlife-crisis-ponytail territory IMO. I think it probably wants some weight taking out of it but again, if I end up at the barber's I'd prefer to have some idea of what to ask for.

Hair looks good, I would trim the beard down to half of the length see how it looks and decide, good luck
Thanks - I really appreciate the support; being stuck in my own head for most of the time, having no frame of reference and with my confidence being pretty low having come out of a long term relationship some months ago.

Tbh I'm reluctant to trim the beard too much as it grows so slowly, but I appreciate many take the same approach as sneefy has suggested with the hair - let it grow then chop it when you know it's got too long. As much as I admire those with massive, perfectly manicured square beards I think my face is already long enough without adding too much more so figured it probably wouldn't look great much beyond where it is now. Maybe now is that time!


  • Healthy amount of hair on top; I do not see "mid life crisis" at all. My high school son has grown his hair out this year and uses pomade to hold that brushed back look. Forehead has similar look to yours, so no worries. You are nowhere near the George Carlin ponytail.
  • Combined with no gray at all, still no evidence of mid life crisis look
  • Very nice healthy beard, classic trimmed look. To accentuate the "well groomed" look, perhaps shaving the area under bottom lip between moustache line and "soul patch."
Thanks - again I'm really grateful for your positive thoughts! The beard's been a really rewarding little project so far but I still have a lot to learn. After decades of paying no attention and assuming my tatty neck beard was just the same as everyone else's far-better-groomed facial hair, it's nice to be told I seem to be nearing my new-found goal of a more tidy appearance. I'll take a look at shaving the area you suggest as this wasn't something I'd considered until you suggested it.
 

luvmysuper

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With just a minor trim it'd be easy to turn that beard into this:

beard-1.jpg

The upside being that the mouth area is free of wayward hair that interferes with eating, drinking etc.

The downside is that it is harder to maintain than it looks.
 
...I've not had a haircut since some time last year and don't do a lot with it other than washing it. Having spent most of my life with generic, off-the-shelf short haircuts I like the tactility and non-conformity of having it long but am not too sure on the aesthetic or where to go when I eventually visit the barbers. Usually it ends up either swept back and tucked behind my ears or hanging in a rough centre-parting which I quite like, but I'm not sure if it just screams "mid life crisis" with that much forehead exposed..

If you were "blessed" with my face, where would you go with the hair and beard?...
At this point, I'd say your hair is kind of a blank canvas that could be styled in many different ways. I think the current style may overemphasize the high forehead a bit. I would change the basic shape of your hair to make it more rounded. This would better balance out your overall rectangular face shape. Also, if you could vary the hair length a little more, I believe that would bring out the texture of your hair which I think would look quite good. The back is starting to get just a bit too long, there where it is flipping up somewhat. To me, collar length is a good place for your hair.

If you would consider a side part, bringing some of the hair over the forehead, this would draw attention away from the forehead and emphasize the hair more.

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I think the beard is overall good, but I would suggest thinning out the front mustache and chin area to allow it to better follow the natural shape of your face. Don't hide behind the beard, instead let it emphasize the underlying shape of your face.

I hope these comments are useful and constructive.
 
With just a minor trim it'd be easy to turn that beard into this:

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The upside being that the mouth area is free of wayward hair that interferes with eating, drinking etc.

The downside is that it is harder to maintain than it looks.
.... although sadly less straightforward to turn my face into that of Hugh Jackman's - definintely think I'd struggle to pull that off!


At this point, I'd say your hair is kind of a blank canvas that could be styled in many different ways. I think the current style may overemphasize the high forehead a bit. I would change the basic shape of your hair to make it more rounded. This would better balance out your overall rectangular face shape. Also, if you could vary the hair length a little more, I believe that would bring out the texture of your hair which I think would look quite good. The back is starting to get just a bit too long, there where it is flipping up somewhat. To me, collar length is a good place for your hair.

If you would consider a side part, bringing some of the hair over the forehead, this would draw attention away from the forehead and emphasize the hair more.

View attachment 1283068

I think the beard is overall good, but I would suggest thinning out the front mustache and chin area to allow it to better follow the natural shape of your face. Don't hide behind the beard, instead let it emphasize the underlying shape of your face.

I hope these comments are useful and constructive.
Thanks - that's really great; just the sort of specific, reasoned guidance I'm after :)

I was thinking similar about the hair as it's grown to this length from being pretty short so isn't this way by design and I feel needs some sort of attention;I'm just not sure what. I've never much liked side partings but have never really tried with long hair and do feel like there's too much slaphead on show.

I think you're the second person who's mentioned the beard length - in principle I appreciate the argument and probably agree, but think I'm just drawn to growing it longer out of curiousity as I've never done it before. In isolation I can see the draw of long beards but I don't think one would suit me. I've thought for a while that it could do with a bit of tidying so maybe I'll use that as an excuse to go over it with the clippers and guard tomorrow to take off a bit of length and see how I feel about it.

Maybe it's time to start thinking about a trip to the barber!
 
.... although sadly less straightforward to turn my face into that of Hugh Jackman's - definintely think I'd struggle to pull that off!



Thanks - that's really great; just the sort of specific, reasoned guidance I'm after :)

I was thinking similar about the hair as it's grown to this length from being pretty short so isn't this way by design and I feel needs some sort of attention;I'm just not sure what. I've never much liked side partings but have never really tried with long hair and do feel like there's too much slaphead on show.

I think you're the second person who's mentioned the beard length - in principle I appreciate the argument and probably agree, but think I'm just drawn to growing it longer out of curiousity as I've never done it before. In isolation I can see the draw of long beards but I don't think one would suit me. I've thought for a while that it could do with a bit of tidying so maybe I'll use that as an excuse to go over it with the clippers and guard tomorrow to take off a bit of length and see how I feel about it.

Maybe it's time to start thinking about a trip to the barber!
I think you want somebody who will cut your hair just with scissors. Most barbers would want to mow your hair down with clippers. Take them a picture of what you are looking for, that will help them out.

I wasn't suggesting to shorten your beard, exactly. But rather to thin it out some there at the front. Your mouth is just barely visible behind that wall of hair. A lot of people of the older generations didn't like beards because as they would say "it looks like he's hiding something".
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I think you want somebody who will cut your hair just with scissors. Most barbers would want to mow your hair down with clippers. Take them a picture of what you are looking for, that will help them out.

I wasn't suggesting to shorten your beard, exactly. But rather to thin it out some there at the front. Your mouth is just barely visible behind that wall of hair. A lot of people of the older generations didn't like beards because as they would say "it looks like he's hiding something".
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It's too bloody late now! :p

Yesterday I buzzed over the whole lot with clippers, downwards / with the grain on a No.4 then No.3 setting. Before I had maybe 3/4" of beard depth beneath my chin, now it's more like 1/2". The hair length itself is maybe around 1" at the beard. It's tidied it up a lot and looks more defined / accentuates the jaw line better as you suggested.

I like the idea of a big beard but don't think it really suits me; I think I have a reasonably strong jawline (which a large beard hides) and an an already longish face that probably doesn't need to be any longer! Maybe I'll grow it out again and play with it a bit more in future - at least now I have a good fallback having grown it out and cut it back :)

I always used to take the pish out of my old man for having a beard / that he looked better with his face covered up - as I've grown older I can totally see where he was coming from now..

I'm still not sure on the hair; I played with a side parting the other day and really wasn't convinced. It defintely needs some attention now though as it's getting increasingly unmanageable. Problem is I still don't really know where to go and am skeptical of leaving it to the barber to decide..


I think it looks fine as is.
Thanks - I appreciate you saying so!
 
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AimlessWanderer

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As it stands, it looks fine. It looks intentional.

The longer it gets, the less intentional it looks, and can look like neglect unless something is obviously maintained. That might be keeping the hair length, and letting the beard grow, or letting the hair grow, and moving to partial beard.

I did the latter. Hair to my elbows, big tache, and (currently) 5" goatee.
 
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