Speaking of 1k shaves, do you strop 1st or do you do a shave test off the stone? ThanksPeople show all kinds of stuff on youtube, not all of it is accurate info. A stone that isn't flat won't stick, and pencil grids will lap off long before the stone gets to being anywhere near 'dead flat'. I only use grids to show me where the hills and valleys are. After that I use a good quality straight edge to check flatness across 8 axes.
If your stone is sticking to the DMT, then you are probably not getting a water bath under the Naniwas's working surface while you are lapping. In other words, water should be falling on the plate while honing. Otherwise, the slurry can/will build up which creats a vacuum. Too much pressure will exacerbate this tremendously, in fact you can press down on one of those 10 mm thick Specialty/Super Stones and if both surfaces are wet it can stick a bit even without any lapping. With proper lapping though, you will eventually create a very flat Naniwa which can stick a bit, but it usually won't 'lock on'.
Before dumping your Nani 8k, it migth be a good idea to learn how to set a bevel well enough to shave with first. That way, you'll be able to actually judge the performance of that 8k fairly. Because if you don't have the bevel set right, and I'd bet a dollar you don't, then there isn't an 8k on the planet that is going to improve your results.