Wendy this is a bad situation,bad advice will only make it worse. As has been said above, you need real legal advice. Good luck to you and your family.
I absolutely agree with that. Talk to a reputable Missouri lawyer who specializes in this area and can give you a realistic view of your options. The good news is that your mortgage is current, you are not in imminent danger of foreclosure or anything like that, and you therefore don't have to make any snap decisions.
Good luck. You certainly have more to deal with these days than anyone should.