My how things change

[luvmysuper]

One Sunday, a year ago...
SWMBO: Aren't you going to shave?
Me: It's Sunday, it's my day off from shaving.
SWMBO: But it doesn't take long, and you look so.... raggedy.

Fast forward to today...
SWMBO: (As I'm doing face prep) You don't need to shave today.
Me: It won't take long, I'm planning on using my favorite soap.
SWMBO: But it's Sunday, it's your day off from shaving!

Anybody else?

 

[Oden_Flagship]

Well my wife literally spends and hour to an hour and a half painting her face every morning. So I have plenty of time to read these forums and watch youtube videos before even getting in the shower and then shave for 15 min before she would even notice that I took longer than usual.

 

[Bertilak]

Anybody else?

I got a comment about a month in. Something like:

From the wife, paraphrased...

You used to shave only every two or three days, and that was when you had to work at the office. Now you work from home and shave every day! Doesn't make sense!

 

[Tom C]

 

[The Nid Hog]

I have shaved every morning like clockwork for the last thirty years. OK--the first couple of years were probably a little irregular, but once I hit my stride, I kept at it. Although I've always wetshaved and occasionally used a DE or a brush and soap, most of it was multi-blade and canned shaving cream or gel. Getting some nice cream and a brush a couple of years ago has gradually led me to give up the many-bladed wonder and go back to the DE. That's what I've been doing exclusively since last December.

To make a long story short, nobody ever said anything to me about shaving until now. Apparently using a brush and a DE razor somehow makes the invisible visible. I can still shower and shave in the time it takes my wife or my daughters to decide what shoes to wear. But it's clear that they think that I've lost my mind. "Shaving...again?" is the morning greeting I hear from them now.

 

[Nils]

To make a long story short, nobody ever said anything to me about shaving until now. Apparently using a brush and a DE razor somehow makes the invisible visible. I can still shower and shave in the time it takes my wife or my daughters to decide what shoes to wear. But it's clear that they think that I've lost my mind. "Shaving...again?" is the morning greeting I hear from them now.

Just like that! EXACTLY like that!

 

[SavantStrike]

I have shaved every morning like clockwork for the last thirty years. OK--the first couple of years were probably a little irregular, but once I hit my stride, I kept at it. Although I've always wetshaved and occasionally used a DE or a brush and soap, most of it was multi-blade and canned shaving cream or gel. Getting some nice cream and a brush a couple of years ago has gradually led me to give up the many-bladed wonder and go back to the DE. That's what I've been doing exclusively since last December.

To make a long story short, nobody ever said anything to me about shaving until now. Apparently using a brush and a DE razor somehow makes the invisible visible. I can still shower and shave in the time it takes my wife or my daughters to decide what shoes to wear. But it's clear that they think that I've lost my mind. "Shaving...again?" is the morning greeting I hear from them now.

But how many DE's do you own? If it's more than 1, suddenly things will be more visible .

 

[brothers]

For a lot of years, I've never paid the slightest attention to what cosmetics and personal care products she needed, purchased, and used, and vice versa. It would be considered seriously unbalanced for me to have ever thought it necessary to go poking around her stuff and saying alien things such as "How come you need 2 of those, don't you already have 1?"; "I think you're spending too much this week on that."; etc. We need, purchase, and use what we think we need, purchase, and use, and any conversations about the details would be considered, by both of us, to be an indication of a serious loss of mental health. "Honey, it's just (shaving cream/lipstick)! You're scaring me, what's wrong! Are you OK? What happened?"

 

[andrew98]

Some people buy what they need, use it, buy more, and so on. Some of us have bought what we need for 20 years or so over a rather short period of time. That sort of behavior can prompt a response from the significant other.

-Andy

 

[brothers]

Some people buy what they need, use it, buy more, and so on. Some of us have bought what we need for 20 years or so over a rather short period of time. That sort of behavior can prompt a response from the significant other.

-Andy

Paying attention and noticing is a good thing. It's just that some guys fall victim to an attempt at criticism from the spouse. We aren't their kids, we're their equal partner. Notice, comment, like it, don't like it, but do not, (spouse) cross that line we mutually respect between what works for us in our hygiene and personal care regimen, and start dictating to me what I should use or not use. What a fool I'd be if I started keeping tabs and making judgments about whether or not she owns varying shades and formulas of (insert product name here), and varying types of instruments she utilizes.

 

[OldSaw]

I was a closet shave geek when my wife met me over 12 years ago. However, since finding B&B, the hobby has developed into something that she chuckles at and even enjoys. She is always on the look out for something new, like the lather bowl in my avatar that she gave me when we were dating. But her last purchase of a home made soap left me in the awkward position of telling her it was not very good.

 

[luvmysuper]

She would never tell me not to get or not to use something or other. Though she thinks the whole thing is much ado about nothing, she has clearly supported me in this endeavor, which she says is cheaper than those which afflict many men.
I mention it merely for the fact of the "ACT" of shaving, not what I'm using or buying.

Unless she's really passive agressive, in which case I better check my food from now on.

 

[Mojo88]

I shave every day which is much less expensive than golf, so I don't get any comments except, " Another box came in the mail today, it's on the counter"
She never really complained about golf, but at 50.00 a round once a week it was getting expensive, not to mention the cost of gear.

 

[kzoo1]

My wife never commented on the quality of my shaves...until I learned the proper way to shave!

A few weeks ago, I had just gone for an SAS in the morning, I was in a bit of a hurry that morning, so two quick N-S passes was all I had time for.

Later that evening, she rubbed her hand on my face, and said- "You didn't do a very good job of shaving today!"

I used to shave every other day...go figure...

!

 

[MajorBurnz]

My wife is somewhat understanding about the AD's, though recently she did ask me to hold back for a while.

She does enjoy shaking her head at my 'new' shaving habits. Still, I believe she's a little sad about not having to pull out ingrown hairs all the time, like she used to when I used cartridge razors.

 

[ateace]

My wife has always been a fan of stubble. I used to shave every other day, which she liked.
Since switching to DE, I shave every day, so that eventually became a topic of discussion because of her preference for whiskers and my added bathroom time (I don't call attention to my ADs). I explained that I feel better and more presentable at work if I'm shaved, even though it's not required. Now on weekends, she will directly instruct me not to shave, especially if we're spending the day together. Consistent, she is.

 

[Monkeydad]

My wife has told my mother and her mother that I am obsessed with shaving now.

Both times I was nearby and had to defend myself: "Well since I busted my arm up at work, I can't lift weights any more, so I needed a replacement manly hobby".

Truth. I started shaving this way after my arm fracture/surgery/crippledness that I'm still recovering from 3 months later.

Before, my wife was telling people I was obsessed with working out.




I was and I am.
(lifting/shaving)


When my arm gets better and I can work out again...she'll never see me. I'll be at work/on my weight bench/in the bathroom.