I wanted to wait a few days before I posted this. On Christmas day at 4 am my sister passed. Last year at Thanksgiving she was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer. She fought and endured numerous rounds of chemo and radiation, finally she went into a clinical trial that just did not work. The cancer had spread and there was nothing they could do. She grew tired and went into Hospice care 3 weeks ago.
As kids we grew up in a difficult family situation and because of that we leaned on each other for support and as time went along that bond became stronger. We seldom had disagreements and we knew no matter what, it was us together. Aside from our spouses we were each others biggest supporters and when things were difficult we were there for each other. Four years ago her husband became ill and during that time we began a habit of calling each other on our commutes to work. That never stopped and until she was not able to talk we would touch base. It wasn't anything big, it was about our families and things that were going on in the world.
Now the reason for this, its not about sympathy, its about what is important. As I get older I see my friends distance themselves from family over petty arguments. Don't get me wrong family dynamics are difficult and sometimes it is necessary for the well being of all to disconnect. However, misunderstandings happen and most of the time differences can be worked through.
We said our goodbyes and I know I will see her again. I just will miss that morning conversation.
As kids we grew up in a difficult family situation and because of that we leaned on each other for support and as time went along that bond became stronger. We seldom had disagreements and we knew no matter what, it was us together. Aside from our spouses we were each others biggest supporters and when things were difficult we were there for each other. Four years ago her husband became ill and during that time we began a habit of calling each other on our commutes to work. That never stopped and until she was not able to talk we would touch base. It wasn't anything big, it was about our families and things that were going on in the world.
Now the reason for this, its not about sympathy, its about what is important. As I get older I see my friends distance themselves from family over petty arguments. Don't get me wrong family dynamics are difficult and sometimes it is necessary for the well being of all to disconnect. However, misunderstandings happen and most of the time differences can be worked through.
We said our goodbyes and I know I will see her again. I just will miss that morning conversation.
