But sheesh, Mac OSx is jess plain the most annoying, least friendly, barely usable operating system I've had to deal with and honestly, I've worked with quite few over the last 40+ years.
I understand your frustration. But... MacOS is not intended for super-users. Just accept this as fact and adjust how and what you do with it. It's not a broken tool. It's a tool that has a safety always on so the user cannot shoot themselves in the foot. It's like a toy. If you can't get past that then you will most likely always be annoyed with it. The desktop environment is quite nice and consistent once you get used to it.