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Your responses have been helpful.
To clarify, I'm not financially supporting them. I forgot to mention that the internship dude actually works as a server at a nearby restaurant. He pays his own way, and the other two have their parents send me checks for their portions of rent and utilities. Both of the other two come from very well-off families, and are nowhere near financially independent from their folks. While I'm not having to cover anyone else's *** for rent, they can't relate to my mindset of having to work for everything I have, and that likely contributes to their apathy towards my stuff.
I'm looking at studio/1BR options in the area, and while I'll definitely be paying more rent, I think it may be worth the peace of mind. Before I drop that bomb on them though, I'll mention the idea of a maid service for common areas only. In a sense that would be throwing in the towel and enabling their laziness, but there would at least be a "baseline" as someone said above. And yeah, split between the 4 of us, that's like $35-40/mo.
I'm sure we'll all have a house chat again, in light of this flare-up. The thing is, not one week prior to this, we all had a house chat and talked about all this, but nothing changed. These "strongly-worded letters" are because nothing else seems to work.
Honestly though, I go to bed earlier the rest of the guys, and am usually up and out to work before they're awake in the mornings. When I get home, if they're home too, they often have friends over. Not wanting to cause a scene or humiliate them in front of people (further making me look like the bad guy), I communicate via alternative means. On the flip-side, I'm totally responsive to their requests and change my ways the first time they ask.
gaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh


Anyway, I'll keep you all posted as to what happens. Probably some of you saw my previous Barber Shop post entitled 'smoking girlfriend', and it's just so helpful to see the spectrum of responses, some of which I'd never considered. For the record, we're still together and she seems to be making progress. As with this, time will tell, my mileage may vary
, etc.
Thanks.
_B
To clarify, I'm not financially supporting them. I forgot to mention that the internship dude actually works as a server at a nearby restaurant. He pays his own way, and the other two have their parents send me checks for their portions of rent and utilities. Both of the other two come from very well-off families, and are nowhere near financially independent from their folks. While I'm not having to cover anyone else's *** for rent, they can't relate to my mindset of having to work for everything I have, and that likely contributes to their apathy towards my stuff.
I'm looking at studio/1BR options in the area, and while I'll definitely be paying more rent, I think it may be worth the peace of mind. Before I drop that bomb on them though, I'll mention the idea of a maid service for common areas only. In a sense that would be throwing in the towel and enabling their laziness, but there would at least be a "baseline" as someone said above. And yeah, split between the 4 of us, that's like $35-40/mo.
I'm sure we'll all have a house chat again, in light of this flare-up. The thing is, not one week prior to this, we all had a house chat and talked about all this, but nothing changed. These "strongly-worded letters" are because nothing else seems to work.
Honestly though, I go to bed earlier the rest of the guys, and am usually up and out to work before they're awake in the mornings. When I get home, if they're home too, they often have friends over. Not wanting to cause a scene or humiliate them in front of people (further making me look like the bad guy), I communicate via alternative means. On the flip-side, I'm totally responsive to their requests and change my ways the first time they ask.
gaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh



Anyway, I'll keep you all posted as to what happens. Probably some of you saw my previous Barber Shop post entitled 'smoking girlfriend', and it's just so helpful to see the spectrum of responses, some of which I'd never considered. For the record, we're still together and she seems to be making progress. As with this, time will tell, my mileage may vary

Thanks.
_B
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