"Cussing"

[Mark5-9]

The place I work the language is, to say the least, colorful. In fact sailors have been known to leave offended from the place where I work. Four letter words are used as a noun, adjective and verb, often simultaneously. Perhaps because of this my language has sometimes been criticized by certain members of the public.

Which may be fair.

I mention this because a member of this forum went ahead and clicked the link to my blog at the bottom of one of my posts and found the level of "cussing" (I love that term ) to be somewhat akin to listening to Mike Tyson. Now, I'm not sure quite what that means but I'm led to believe it is not good.

I'm starting this thread for two reasons.

First to warn people who have a problem with the 21st century NOT to click the link below. There is "cussing", possibly occasional nudity and almost certainly something to offend everyone if they sit down and think hard enough about it.

Second, and actually the real reason, is to find out your opinions on this sort of stuff. What, if anything, do you find offensive? What could you really do without? (Probably best not to single out any particular people, groups, ect. Just general stuff you are confronted with, day to day.)

I'll start.

I have a problem with closed mindedness and people who try to subject others to their own personal set of values.

Over to you.

 

[ouch]

This is an inappropriate post for this site. You complain of "people who try to subject others to their own personal set of values," yet this is precisely what you are doing here.

Please change it.

 

[mdunn]

people told you off for swearing on your personal blog?

 

[Leche]

I'm not one of those people looking to get offended, I really don't get offended anyways. If I read a blog or something similar and don't like it I don't read it.

 

[Mark5-9]

Ouch. You are the moderator and what you say goes.

I really am interested in peoples views and I am not just trying to be confrontational. How would you like me to change it?

 

[Mark5-9]

people told you off for swearing on your personal blog?

Yep.

 

[ouch]

Start by removing any links that might be offensive.

If your interest is in pushing buttons, you'll have to find another place to do so.

 

[dpm802]

I'm pretty open-minded about language. There is a time and place where "cussing" is appropriate, and times when it is not.

I don't mind when someone inserts an occasional four-letter word into their speech, but it irks me when they use a stream of foul language to camouflage the fact that they have nothing to say.

 

[GoldenMonkey]

People that are easily offended by coarse or even crude language need to relax. There's a time and a place for everything, and although it doesn't make you cool or manly to swear like a drunken sailor, it certainly isn't anything to whine about. I'm sure you're a perfectly good person and so are your co-workers. I'm sure you understand the value of moderation in certain situations (like, if you were in church, or in front of little kids, or a guest in someone's home that you were on polite terms with). I agree with you on the whole nature of closed-mindedness and intolerance and people forcing you into accepting their way of thinking, but you DO have to realize that thre is a time to be yourself and a time to check your s#@t, so to speak. Just be aware of other people's feelings and accept things as they are wherever you go, unless you set the rules. Around here, more often than not, you'll be expected to comport yourself with a level of decency and "gentlemanliness", and to be expected to treat others as you yourself wish to be treated. It's a small sacrifice, and when we're kicking back in your garage having a beer, you can call me all the names you want...I won't be offended, lol...believe me, I can shock MYSELF sometimes with the things that come out of MY mouth, lololol...

By the way...I bookmarked your blog, lol...

AND..that said...if I stumbled across someone's blog on these here intarwebz and didn't like what I read, the LAST thing I do would be to complain about it. Probably the FIRST would be to just close the browser and get on with my life. It's people that complain about such things that sit in their basement all day writing letters in protest and "strenuously objecting" to any and all forms of free speech. They keep themselves warm by the fires of righteous indignation...

 

[ouch]

Compared to me, none of you even know how to curse. I've made it an art form.

But if I can contain myself, you'll have to as well. This is, after all, a gentlemanly site.

 

[Mark5-9]

Start by removing any links that might be offensive.

If your interest is in pushing buttons, you'll have to find another place to do so.

Thats not what I am interested in at all. Your request to "remove any links that might be offensive" is exactly why am am asking this sort of question. To find out what the community of B&B finds offensive. We are a varied and international group of people here. What may be offensive to some will not be to others. As GoldenMonkey implied, it is all a mater of context.

I just want to start an intelligent discussion on the subject, which is already happening.

And, for the record, I have never used a "cuss word" on this site.

I think...

 

[Austin]

People that are easily offended by coarse or even crude language need to relax. There's a time and a place for everything, and although it doesn't make you cool or manly to swear like a drunken sailor, it certainly isn't anything to whine about. I'm sure you're a perfectly good person and so are your co-workers. I'm sure you understand the value of moderation in certain situations (like, if you were in church, or in front of little kids, or a guest in someone's home that you were on polite terms with). I agree with you on the whole nature of closed-mindedness and intolerance and people forcing you into accepting their way of thinking, but you DO have to realize that thre is a time to be yourself and a time to check your s#@t, so to speak. Just be aware of other people's feelings and accept things as they are wherever you go, unless you set the rules. Around here, more often than not, you'll be expected to comport yourself with a level of decency and "gentlemanliness", and to be expected to treat others as you yourself wish to be treated. It's a small sacrifice, and when we're kicking back in your garage having a beer, you can call me all the names you want...I won't be offended, lol...believe me, I can shock MYSELF sometime with the things that come out of MY mouth, lololol...

By the way...I bookmarked your blog, lol...

Golden, I have to agree with you. When I'm at a pub with my pals, we tend to be a little salty.

Compared to me, none of you even know how to curse. I've made it an art form.

But if I can contain myself, you'll have to as well. This is, after all, a gentlemanly site.

You sir are the master. I have been subject to tirades via pm by this gent. He is a kung fu master.

 

[marvin100]

Thanks to the internet, every link leads to something offensive, either directly or indirectly. Policing people's own blog links is a step too far.

/my two shekels

 

[GoldenMonkey]

*tip of the hat* Austin, I thank you for that.

Austin is proof that moderation cuts both ways.

And didn't you just know I'd be one of those that had to chime in on this thread, lol...

 

[richmondesi]

First point, cussing has nothing to do with the 21st century. Second point, talk how ever you like; I couldn't care less. The great thing about being a grown up is that we get to choose our associations for the most part. I don't push my values on anyone, but me not associating with people that talk like that (excessively) doesn't mean I need to relax. I don't associate with people that do much of anything in excess (exercise, cuss, drink, smoke, work, etc.). What it means is that I like people that do things in moderation.

Having said that, I'd like to give a big +1 to Jay on this one

 

[nikkuchan]

There is no language that offends me. No matter how crudely, voilently, or politely anybody may speak, the personal views that they communicate are what's important. Some of the worst things I've ever heard were clean and void of "cussing."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IbALbZ9bHFU

Here's a good point. Warning: This video has "cussing!"

 

[BEAR DEN]

I have drank with an otter....so my priorities must be in order. I cuss so much in the real world that I actually find it refreshing to come here and not see it. Am I offended or does it make me blush? Hell no! All it really does is bring me back to the world that I live in most of the time...the time when I'm not on B&B.

 

[Hanzo]

I don't cuss except under my breath and now I am very self concious if I use a four letter word out loud but listening to or reading cuss words doesn't offend me at all. In fact some folks can cuss with great skill and it becomes a hysterical, skilled use of language, like Samuel L. Jackson characters.

 

[marvin100]

Wait, isn't the point of this thread the idea that simply linking to something that doesn't fit B&B's gentlemanly atmosphere is verboten? I don't think anybody's trying to question the rules here, right?

But is B&B trying to stop us from cussing elsewhere (or at least trying to make us pretend we don't cuss elsewhere? Or cover that fact up?)?

Because that doesn't make much sense to me.

 

[Obsessed]

Compared to me, none of you even know how to curse. I've made it an art form.

Ah, but the rules you have established make it impossible for us to challenge that claim. How Machiavellian!