Hey Aaron, glad to see you venturing on the honing road.How often do these need to be lapped and what should I be using?
If you are using a Tomo you will not need to lap it often. The tomo will keep the surface fresh cutting.
Depending on the use and hardness of the stone (which looks hard) it will not dish in any meaningful way for some time.
W/D paper works fine for dressing Jnats. Rinse the paper before hand to rid it of errant particles and wash the stone well with water after.
Using 1000 grit will give a nice finish to the stone if you will be using a slurry stone anyway.
Good luck with it.